Your self-confidence is your sense of self.  It is your belief in your capabilities to perform at the required level, attain goals, learn new skills and achieve your objectives.  It is the most important psychological contributor to performance in the business world because even if have all of the ability in the world to accomplish a goal, if you lack confidence in your abilities, you won't use them to their fullest extent to pursue success.  

Self-talk drives self-esteem which drives self-confidence.  Everybody faces self-doubt.  People with higher self-confidence and ability to manage personal self-doubt develop higher self-confidence. Fortunately, confidence is a skill that can be progressively developed with awareness and practice.

I was thinking about a scene from the TV show Billions in which Wendy Rhodes, the inhouse psychologist at Axe Capital, in a session with an employee, lays out three reasons why people choose to have a relationship – because they see something of themselves in the other person, see something they lack that the other person has or thirdly, the other person has something they want to use. 

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on 22 May 2017 12:08 AM

15 Reasons Millennials Are (Secretly) Afraid Of Success

An article about self-worth disguised in a pricing article

I have two questions for you: Pay close attention to how you answer each one, okay? Question #1: How much would you pay to hear me recite poetry for an hour? _____ Question #2: How much would I have to pay you to come listen to me recite poetry for an hour? ______ In your mind, have you said to yourself, “Just come hire me….I’ll pay you…okay no I won’t it works the other way around…but really really really please come.” The way you feel about your own service leaks into what your customers see and hear.

Embrace Your Insecurity

As it turns out, conquering any fear makes the next fear seem just a little less daunting, unless you stop pushing… So feed that appetite and live on the edge!

10 Behaviors of High Achievers

Here are 10 attributes of consistently high achievers.

Dealing with the Voice in your Head

The Voice of Knowledge in my Head has a Life of its Own. Where did the voice come from and why is it so hard to make it be quiet? Do you ever notice the voice in your head has a lot of self-judgments? How come when I try to turn off the voice in my head it doesn’t seem to work? One of the most helpful things in this process of quieting the voice in your head (the Voice) is to realize where it came from and what it is doing there. Understanding the origin of the Voice will help you let go of judgmental reactions during this process.

Overcoming Insecurity and Low Self Esteem

Real Self Confidence and Esteem is based in emotion, not a self image. To build self confidence and overcome low self esteem is to change how we feel emotionally about ourselves. To change our emotion requires changing two different core beliefs about self image. The first core belief is obvious. It is the belief that we are not good enough. It may have a more specific association to how we look, how smart we are, money, or lack of confidence sexually. The second core belief to change is the image of success that we feel we should be.

15 Probing Questions to Help You Bust Through Limiting Beliefs

You have great intentions, but you don’t follow through. You tell yourself you want change, but you’re too afraid to take action. You want a passionate life, but you meet roadblocks at every turn. At the heart of this failure to launch is a cluster of limiting beliefs and negative thoughts residing in your psyche and holding you back. You’re really just one or two thoughts away from the ability to make many positive changes in your life. When you learn to mentally and emotionally disengage from those thoughts, you will catapult your potential to do just about anything you want to do.

Why Does It Take So Long to Succeed?

Many of my coaching clients are working on discovering their dearest dreams and bringing them into the world. I watch them melt down, freak out, and experience astounding progress, sometimes in the same day. And a question that plagues so many of them, so many of us, daring to live inspired lives is this: why does it take so long to succeed? As I go forward, I can’t help but look backward. Why has it taken me so long to really succeed?